lordhellebore:

vrysius:

vrysius:

vrysius:

chelonianmobile:

vrysius:

thebibliosphere:

heavyweightheart:

do all the jeff goldblum stans realize that he’s on his third wife and she’s literally half his age

Half his age, as in she was born in 1983 making her 35 years old and an adult with adult agency and life experiences to balance out the inexperience and power dynamics that make age gap relationships questionable at best and predatory at worst?

Like I get where you’re coming from, a lot of the time there is good reason to side-eye wide age gap relationships. But there’s also sometimes nuance, like the fact that they met and got engaged when she was 31, and as near as I can find from a quick google search, his other marriages although having ended, did not end for awful or violent reasons. Sometimes people just realize they made a mistake or their needs change, and they are allowed to do things to rectify them, like responsibly end a marriage for the sake of those involved rather than continue torturing each other.

Also if the objection is to how many times he’s been married, his second wife
Geena Davis (also in her 30s when she married him)

has been married four times. Is that unacceptable too?

I’m not trying to be hostile and I don’t particularly care about him either way. This just seems like such vague phrasing designed to provoke an inflammatory response and I can’t seem to find any receipts to back it up other than the fact that he has indeed been married three times, married a younger woman in her 30s, has a son with her, and has talked openly about how they go to couples therapy to deal with their shit, which is actually, if you think about it, a very healthy thing to do.

And for what it’s worth, his first wife
Patricia Gaul was born in 1945 making him the younger of the two (1952), but
making them of comparable and compatible ages when they got married to each other in
their 30s. Like I’m just not seeing the behavior or someone here who is a
repeat offender of chasing after vulnerable young women in the same way say, Drake is blatantly grooming a 14 year old girl.

Interestingly enough you can care about men grooming minors and about the commodification and consumption of youth still inherent to the defense(!) and normalization of a 60-year old man partnering with a 30-year old woman.

Interestingly enough, thirty-year-old women are more than capable of deciding whether they want to date or marry a sixty-year-old man and don’t need you patronising them.

I like how you think it’s patronizing to point out that we fetishize youthfulness.

How many of the people who want to die on this hill also think that white people having racial preferences in dating isn’t informed by racism?

Also important to note:

Trying to deflect any criticism about the sexism that plays into this by pretending any of you care about a woman’s choice is really, deeply insidious.

It’s almost as if women are offended by the idea that they have to view themselves as constant victims with little agency of their own who just ignorantly play along with the distasteful desires of evil men. It’s almost as if they see that as sexist. Shocking and insidious indeed.

Wait, wait, at thirty we’re decrepit old hags for being in fandom but simultaneously we are fetishized youth for dating older men? Y’all are really confused about how age works. Check us back when you finally figure yourselves out.

spoopy-story:

kramergate:

kramergate:

do you ever have like a breakdown but your logical brain is still active just thinking “ok this is annoying can we wrap this up so we can go back to bottling these feelings and like going to work or whatever” lol

like can we finish this early im trying to build a potato farm in minecraft

Emotional brain: 

Logical brain:

lordhellebore:

rmccarthyjames:

sunspill:

opens a google document that’s enough for today

The Writing Process

I’m at that exact stage right now.