First let me preface this buy saying I personally don’t need money. I’m good right now, that’s not what this is about.
But I am asking for money and here’s why.
I saw this great post here on tumblr about how hard it is for homeless women when they get their periods. Well, I have all these leftover birchboxes because I always thought they were too pretty to get rid and that there would be SOMETHING I could use them for.
Seems like I have.
I’m putting together these ten ‘menstruation boxes’ to give out to homeless women I come across here in New York City. Here’s what the box includes currently:
Right now I have:
Eight slim, but heavy flow pads.
Bags to protect the pads (they don’t have cases) that can also double as a trash bag.
Four panty liners
Four pieces of chocolate 😊
I want to add to them and this is where I could use your help. I want to include individual packets of Aleve as well as gift cards to Starbucks. The Aleve I can buy myself, but I want to include $10-$20 Bux cards, which adds up.
Starbucks is everywhere in this city, so easily accessible, and I figure, with it getting cold, being able to get a hot drink and a hot wrap or sandwich would go a long way.
If anyone would like to contribute, here’s my paypal.me/stephrc79 account. Or you can buy a digital card outright from Starbucks, in whatever dollar amount you want ($10 min) and send it to me at my gmail account (same user handle) and I’ll go get it for the boxes.
I really don’t need a lot of money AT ALL, but it’s a lot for at least me as one person. So if I get more than I need, I’m going to either try and make more boxes, time permitting, or donate to a local women’s shelter.
That’s all. HAPPY HOLIDAYS! 🎄🕎
I gotta say, The Christmas Chronicles has significantly raised the bar of what I expect from my made-for-small-screen, formulaic, heartwarming holiday garbage.
Let’s observe this little shady one. They’re not straight up yelling ‘pedo’ but they are trying to imply it. Because remembering your own teen years, and the swirling hormones, and the crushes you had and the things you wish you’d been free to do, or the things you actually might have done, is ‘sus’, apparently. Heaven forbid us grown-ups ever revisit our younger selves in fiction, or show interest in characters that resonate with us.
Anytime you find somebody calling it creepy that adults write about kids and minors whatever the context, it’s a safe bet they aren’t terribly grown yet, and haven’t read too widely either.
Yet again, no reason given for the alleged moral wrongness. Just more “WAAAH I’M UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT SOMETHING I CAN EASILY AVOID WAAAAAAH”
Great. This garbage again. Why even point them to all the documentation, they deliberately misconstrue it when they read it.
But for the benefit of the genuinely curious, from the Barry Law Review, Volume 16, Issue One:
People better versed in US law than I can clarify new developments, but as far as I have seen, the underlined parts remain relevant, and written works don’t even count.
Do women wear this shit without having their eyes puff up and water for days afterwards? Like not allergies level, but irritation. Am I just exceptionally sensitive or is this normal and y’all just put up with it.
Do women actually feel comfortable in heels or do they come home and put cream on their burst blisters, and ice their heel and arch and toe pain?
Like am I just extra sensitive or are women as a gender being socialized into painful and irritating standards of fashion and beauty?
Are all y’all just suffering through it or do I have sensory issues with things on my skin?
On the rare occasions I wear makeup I don’t have issues with it but I’m *always* smearing it during the day by rubbing and forgetting I have it on.
I’ve never done true heels all day but did give myself a stress fracture by wearing the chunky heeled ankle boots (that I wore on errands every day on fall/winter weekends) while on my feet all day at a conference and then walking back 10-15 minutes to my car.
Most makeup doesn’t bother me at all but I have run into a couple of eyeshadows that caused exactly what you’re describing, so I’m inclined to say sensitivity. Might just be to those formulations, might be to the stuff in general, up to you if continued experimenting is worth it.
As for heels, I’ve had good, great and downright awful, from hurting in a matter of minutes to only feeling it if I wore them all day. But IME they all reach a hurt point eventually. The few people I know who are comfortable in heels all the time had been wearing them consistently for so long their calf muscles shortened so they aren’t comfortable in regular shoes anymore.
Let’s observe this little shady one. They’re not straight up yelling ‘pedo’ but they are trying to imply it. Because remembering your own teen years, and the swirling hormones, and the crushes you had and the things you wish you’d been free to do, or the things you actually might have done, is ‘sus’, apparently. Heaven forbid us grown-ups ever revisit our younger selves in fiction, or show interest in characters that resonate with us.
Anytime you find somebody calling it creepy that adults write about kids and minors whatever the context, it’s a safe bet they aren’t terribly grown yet, and haven’t read too widely either.
Yet again, no reason given for the alleged moral wrongness. Just more “WAAAH I’M UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT SOMETHING I CAN EASILY AVOID WAAAAAAH”
Great. This garbage again. Why even point them to all the documentation, they deliberately misconstrue it when they read it.
Let’s observe this little shady one. They’re not straight up yelling ‘pedo’ but they are trying to imply it. Because remembering your own teen years, and the swirling hormones, and the crushes you had and the things you wish you’d been free to do, or the things you actually might have done, is ‘sus’, apparently. Heaven forbid us grown-ups ever revisit our younger selves in fiction, or show interest in characters that resonate with us.
Anytime you find somebody calling it creepy that adults write about kids and minors whatever the context, it’s a safe bet they aren’t terribly grown yet, and haven’t read too widely either.
Yet again, no reason given for the alleged moral wrongness. Just more “WAAAH I’M UNCOMFORTABLE ABOUT SOMETHING I CAN EASILY AVOID WAAAAAAH”
So I discovered it’s Tifa Appreciation Week. Excuse me while I indulge in my forever fandom some more.
Day 1 – vii remake – I’m apparently starting this off with angst because one of the things that I think about most are the five years between Nibelheim and the beginning of the game. We’re told Zangan took Tifa to a doctor in Midgar and then just… left her there? Like, excuse me, but can we talk about that? This 15-year-old girl is left alone in an unfamiliar city after losing everything, but then she picks herself up and somehow becomes the owner of her own bar that’s home base to a Shinra resistance group??
Where is my entire prequel game about that.
Yup, I’d buy it. What happened in those missing five years between the destruction of Nibelheim, and the point where she finds Cloud again?
(My guess on how she became the manager/hostess of Seventh Heaven is she basically “inherited” the place by being the most reliable worker the previous owner had known – and when he died after drinking the bathtub gin he was mixing up in the basement, she basically cleaned things up, threw out that batch of gin, found a replacement supplier and picked up running things from there).
And she would have had some level of reduced consciousness the whole trip over, possibly a bit on the run as Shinra tried to chase down loose ends. Her arrival in Midgar has quite a bit in common with Cloud’s.
…is this supposed to be considered weird? I don’t get it.
I think it’s more that it was an unexpected feature. I’m glad it’s there.
Yeah I actually found it while prepping for brain surgery, and was incredibly relieved that it was a built-in feature and not something I’d have to leave convoluted instructions about or whatever. It’s a bit morbid, sure, but it’s a great feature.
…an unexpected but very appreciated feature.
This is a feature designed by women who’d been in fandom for decades, and who had faced the issue of, “X is dead, and we know she loved fandom, so… can we reprint her stories? Who can decide? Her family knows fuck-all about fandom. Who was her best friend? Do they know if she would’ve liked her story to be reprinted in the Best Of OTP Fic zine?”
Running across that once doesn’t make you think about a policy, but by the time it’s five to ten times, and then you’ve seen people vanish from the internet (might be dead; might just be not interested anymore) and nobody knows whether it’s okay to collect their fic in an archive or transfer it to a new one….
Yeah, the FNoK policy is one of the awesome things about AO3.
i’m considering spinal surgery, i should designate someone.
I wonder where the break happened that such wide swaths of younger fans don’t grasp fandom things that used to be unspoken understandings. That fic readers are expected to know fiction from reality, that views expressed in fic are not necessarily those of the author, that the labels, tags and warnings on various kinkfics are also the indication that they were created for titillation and not much more, please use responsibly as per all pornography. The ‘problem’ isn’t that so-called ‘problematic’ fic exists but that some of the audience is being stupid, irresponsible, at worst criminal, at best not old enough to be in the audience to begin with. And that’s on the consumer, not the author who told you via labels, tags, ratings, warnings and venues what their fic was about and what it was for.
I can’t stress enough how important this post is
Right when we all decided that we all knew this, and stopped posting things like “don’t like, don’t read” and “not my characters please don’t sue” and “the views in here are not my views but ____ is a terrible person, so this is what it’s like in his mind” WE got complacent. We can hardly condemn the young ones for their ignorance because of that.
So maybe tags are supposed to communicate that? But I’ve never read the tags and understood that “this is just a kink, and not necessarily the author’s thing”. They only communicate that if you already understand them to be shorthand for it.
Have you ever read an academic paper that was CLEARLY written for people who already knew all the technical jargon? Imagine having to wade through that just to read a short story about two fictional people boning. The labels, tags, ratings, warnings, and venues only work as intended when the audience already speaks that lingo. So again, I say we can’t blame the youth for being ignorant when NO ONE IS TEACHING THIS STUFF ANYMORE.
I have literally never seen that last one and in any case, the kids know damn well about dl;dr, they’re just purity-policing fandom and being ageist and misogynistic in general. It’s not inexperience and ignorance as I first believed, but deliberate cyberbullying.
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