tbh the best feeling in the world is when you get to make your favorite people laugh and you have that moment of yes,,,,, just as planned,,,,,,,,,,, I have Succeeded in Bringing Them Amusement,,,,,, look at that Beautiful Smile™ that means the world to me
To all you folk wading through the depths of trauma, still feeling it fresh, still raw over every inch of your soul, still angry and biting and screaming at everyone around you who is just living their lives as usual while you’re stuck in place, drowning in pain…
It gets better. You don’t have to everyday move forward and some days it will be hard to even stand, but if you hold on long enough and manage not to die, it gets better.
And then every shred of conscience that deserted you while you were trying to survive comes flooding back a thousand-fold. After the pain, comes the guilt and the shame, and they hurt just as bad, sometimes worse
I know you’re hurting. But even if it’s only for the sake of your future path to recovery, don’t hurt others with your pain.
I recall no such thing but whatever actions of mine you’re choosing to define as such, I’M SURE YOU FUCKING DESERVED IT. Now go do something constructive with your life instead of harassing other people for enjoying themselves without your approval.
I absolutely, 100% without reservation do guarantee you that no fanfic ever printed itself out and shoved itself up anyone’s ass. So all you little haters claiming fanfic is abusive and pedophilic can take a damn backseat and seek professional help for your delusions. Quit waving your tragic past in everyone’s face like you deserve to get your way because of it. Quit using it as a shield against the flak you rightfully get for your own hateful, ignorant, abusive behavior. Quit acting like pain gives you a right to be an asshole without consequences. It’s a travesty that you were abused, but you’re still full of shit.
You are not the only ones walking wounded in the world. The rest of us have our own wounds to bind and can’t forever tiptoe around yours. Recovery means learning again how to function in the world. You don’t get to hide in your little victim bubble forever. Get up and take control of your own damn self.
Unique houmongi in teal, green and tan textural silk with white, black and gold flowers. A perfect match for my taste and measrments – and the silk is textured in a way the photos can’t catch.
Not sure but I think it’s a early spring piece, worn maybe till May. Momiji might be a ao-momiji (green momiji). Streams are rather spring than autumn. Clematis blooms in June so April / May would be pretty much appropriate for it.
I took my meds too close to bedtime again and I need you all to know the dream I had last night involved Robin Williams becoming the new Defense Against The Dark Arts teacher at Hogwarts. Not, a character portrayed by Robin Williams, just Robin Williams as himself running around Hogwarts doing wandless magic and being as loud and big as possible because and I quote before I forget:
“Listen, children, I’m not saying all this bad shit that is happening isn’t scary and you shouldn’t be concerned–because you should!–but I’m telling you this now for free. Life is a boggart, it’s the biggest boggart of them all. You never know what it’s going to look like one moment to the next. And sometimes you just gotta laugh. It’s okay to laugh. It’s part of the grieving process. You need to grieve before you can heal. But it’s okay to laugh while you’re doing it.”
I didn’t wake up right after that, some more stuff happened in a hazy sort of way as the dream began to dissolve into conciousness, but I remember him yelling Expecto Patronum as he punched a Death Eater in the face. Because sometimes, evidently, you have to make your own happy memories.
Sometimes I wonder if native English speakers appreciate how much more comfortable the internet is for them than for the rest of the world
Like, you can go on tumblr and simply read stuff in your mother tongue? Amazing. Go on youtube and you don’t have to replay some sentences ten times to try to understand what they’re saying? Incredible. Look for practically anything on google and know that there will be a fuckton of results that you can read without having to spend half the time looking up words in a dictionary? Fascinating. Make a post or send an ask without panicking that you’ll make a silly mistake or that they won’t understand what you meant? Unbelievable.
@dovalayn I did. I’ve studied English for about 10 years and I have the official diploma for the C2 level (the maximum for a non-native speaker) given by the University of Cambridge.
But it’s still my 3rd language and there will be always things that escape me, mainly the slang. Always. Because you know you are always less than the majority. And it’s tiring.
That’s all I’m saying. It would be nice for once to not have to make the effort. And effort is something that no matter how many years of English class I take will always be there.
But not everyone can do that. Some people can’t afford private English academies or are bad at languages, and they should still be able to exist online as well. Why are you so bothered by people not speaking English perfectly? Or by people posting on the internet in other languages??
Since you think my English isn’t good enough, I’d like to see how you do in your 3rd language, and if you don’t get tired after a while 🤷♀️
I hope @no-passaran doesn’t mind me going on a sort of tangent here, but the fact English is a lingua franca is, like it or not, permeated by features of linguistic imperialism.
Native English speakers are used to having the world, and by extension all non native speakers, accommodate to their language. If someone doesn’t know English then said person is uneducated, isn’t wordly, is not qualified enough. If a person doesn’t pronounce English like a native, they’re pronouncing it wrong. Tourists are expected to speak perfect English and be proficient in it to avoid any inconvenience to native English speakers when travelling abroad to English speaking countries (USA and UK particularly, yet interestingly enough we are demanded to speak in English when these people visit our countries). These are all mindsets and situations that exist and are part of the broader context, in which English does operate on linguistic imperialism grounds on a global scale; I’m going to quote Phillipson really quickly:
It’s… interesting, for the lack of a better word, how non native English speakers must even accommodate to native English speakers, when in actuality non native English speakers far surpass natives by several millions and, if anything, it should be them who ought to change, not us.
English becomes our second/third/etc language, we use it with several degrees of proficiency, being affected all the time by our L1, or all the other languages that we might know, we are constantly building on our current interlanguage and gaining a better grasp on how to operate with English. When we talk or chat with other NNE speakers with whom we don’t share a language, we make ourselves understood, we manage to sort any misgiving in communication, if we make a mistake we re-phrase, re-arrange, express things in another way. We are communicating, we still get our messages across despite some slips of the tongue, little mistakes or even a few errors here and there.
We are able to engage, through the use of English, in cross-cultural exchanges, in cross-linguistic exchanges that are allowed by using English as a lingua franca. We are making the language ours, we’re reclaiming the language that for so long was used to shush us down and we’re using it as an asset, we’re using it as a weapon, we’re using it so our voices cannot be silenced any more.
Our messages do get across, they can be understood. When native English speakers claim our Englishes aren’t clear, or we aren’t making any sense, they are really not making the extra effort. In short, many are uncapable of cross-linguistic and cross-cultural exchanges and communication. It’s easier to say we don’t make sense, and by extension snuffing us out, than paying attention to what we are saying.
And we don’t only have to defend our languages and our cultures in a globalised world (in which the normalised culture is that of the center), but we also have to use English as a tool for doing it.
And we should be allowed to express ourselves, exist online without having to constantly accommodate to native English speakers. Because no matter how good our English is, how proficient we are, someone is always going to argue we aren’t good enough, that we aren’t trying hard enough.
This makes me think of a theological debate I once had online – of course in English. The person I was talking to brought the wonderful argument that since I wasn’t a native speaker, I obviously didn’t understand what she was saying and therefore my arguments were invalid.
Yes. Obviously, while I’m writing university papers on Shakespeare in English and talking to you about eschatology in English, I’m actually just pretending to understand what I’m doing, and any disagreement with you must come from me not getting it because my grasp of the language is insufficient.
Not to sound like the most ignorant American possible – aren’t there social media and fandom spaces that are primarily for speakers of language X, Y, Z?
I mean, having been part of vibrant internet communities with people from over a dozen countries (the majority from US, Australia, UK, Ireland, New Zeeland and Canada, I’ll grant, but still, plenty from others), I certain appreciate the internationality of the internet and as an English speaker, I like how I can speak to so many people from so many places without needing to learn a new language, and I’m not saying people should stick to their fellow… same language speakers always, but… I’m not entirely sure what the point of the post is? You guys chose to come here, to a website managed by an American company and with lots and lots of English speakers… but aren’t you quite likely to run into someone else who is also a nonnative speaker of English (but not a speaker your mother tongue either) and you’re using English as your Lingua Franca, as it is in so many places on the Internet.
Using English would be part of the price of doing business in an English language space, just like I’d have to learn say, Japanese if I wanted to go into a Japanese language space online, or if I was in Japan and wanted to get away from the tourist-manager people who speak English as part of their job to get English-speaking tourists to part with their money (and for the record, when I was in Italy for a few weeks years ago, I made an effort to speak Italian with what little command of the language I had, though it wasn’t much and I didn’t go far beyond the core touristy areas anyway).
I’m just – I’m not sure what the issue is?
Not to sound like the most ignorant American possible – aren’t there social media and fandom spaces that are primarily for speakers of language X, Y, Z?
No worries 😉
The thing is: Yes, there are. And all fandom members from non-English-speaking countries who don’t speak English or don’t speak it well enough to read/write/generally consume fandom content in English do use these spaces. And people who are good enough at English sometimes use both. Especially languages with lots of speakers will have huge fandom communities in their own language. But people who speak English as a second/third etc. language and whose native language doesn’t have a fandom community that’s all that big will – if they’re capable – take part in English-speaking fandom. There is incomparably more content.
And that is precisely due to English being spoken by everyone – the point of this post isn’t: “IT’S BAD THAT ENGLISH IS THE LINGUA FRANCA”.
No, we’re glad that we have a lingua franca that means we can communicate without having to learn everybody’s language first.
The poster before me even said it:
We are able to engage, through the use of English, in cross-cultural exchanges, in cross-linguistic exchanges that are allowed by using English as a lingua franca.
The point of this post is that often enough, native speakers will a) not even think about the fact that lots of people they talk to are not native speakers, and b) belittle non-native speakers’ for their “inferior” English. While at the same time, most of the time they don’t have to put any effort at all into international (online) communication – because everyone learnt their language.
As the post and its additions say several times:
I wonder if native English speakers appreciate how much more comfortable the internet is for them than for the rest of the world
But it’s still my 3rd language and there will be always things that escape me
Why are you so bothered by people not speaking English perfectly?
Since you think my English isn’t good enough
If someone doesn’t know English then said person is uneducated, isn’t wordly, is not qualified enough.
Tourists are expected to speak perfect English and be proficient in it to avoid any inconvenience to native English speakers when travelling abroad to English speaking countries
When native English speakers claim our Englishes aren’t clear, or we aren’t making any sense, they are really not making the extra effort.
Because no matter how good our English is, how proficient we are, someone is always going to argue we aren’t good enough, that we aren’t trying hard enough.
since I wasn’t a native speaker, I obviously didn’t understand what she was saying and therefore my arguments were invalid.
The issue is this:
If everyone else is using your language, at least acknowledge that you have it easier and don’t ridicule others for not being 100% perfect/fluent or adapting the language a little. That’s all this is about.