do: normalize trans fatherhood in a respectful way. look at real testimonies from real trans fathers and depict their experience just as they’ve described it, without fetishizing it. acknowledge the work that goes into it, and don’t treat it the way you would treat a cis woman in that situation because the experiences are radically different. respect the feelings of transmasculine people and understand that not all of us will be comfortable talking about it. follow our cues and take our advice, because we know our experiences best. if you don’t know if something is appropriate to write, ask. write these stories as a celebration of family and fatherhood, not as a kink. be careful how you describe our bodies, and do it with respect and integrity, and in a away that preserves our dignity. avoid writing about dysphoria unless you know how it feels. respect our bodies, our identities, and our fatherhood, and our decisions. understand that not all of us will, or want to, have this experience, and respect the boundaries and comfort of transmasc people above all else.
lmao wow. First of all don’t speak for all trans men, because YOU DON’T.
Second of all, policing what people write is fucked as all hell.
I am a proud trans man and I will NEVER stop writing mpreg. Blacklist it and get over it.
don’t: fucking TELL people what to write and not write, you are not in charge of the goddamn internet
do: blacklist “#mpreg tw” if it bothers you
also do: let transmasculine people like @glaepur-against-antis write their mpreg, it obviously makes them happy and you are a dick if you’re gonna make them feel like shit for writing it, and ALSO kink is not inherently bad, like JFC why are you being so “uwu pure” leave us alone and let us read our porn in peace FFS
exactly the point of all current pro-censorship purity wank? This is a rather interesting lack of self-awareness.
…OP is treating fanfic like a civil rights issue – and then complains about it? what?
Also…not everything that is somehow related to gender is about you, believe it or not. Just like genderswap fics aren’t ‘transphobic because you could just write them as trans’, mpreg fics aren’t ‘transphobic because you could write them as trans’. It’s not about you, it’s about something entirely different, no really.
Stop trying to control fiction. (And excuse me if I can’t take the arguments of a person seriously who obviously doesn’t know shit in the first place. ‘All kinks are evil’ lol forever xD)
I have adopted a new policy few years ago and I can’t even begin to tell you how high my quality of life has soared since then.
I don’t help anyone unless they explicitly ask me to.
It sounds selfish and callous because we (especially women) have been trained into acting like working ourselves to death to please others is our reason for living. But this is self-preservation, both physical and mental health.
What I do now, instead of rushing in, is ask. Offer my help. “Hey, do you need a hand?” If the answer is no, i shrug and go my way.
People won’t ask for two reasons: a) they expect you to be useful, b) they don’t want to be helped.
Type A, screw them. Unless they are paying you for your time (and even then) they have no right to demand anything of you.
Type B, if you need help you’re in a bad spot. You’re in a position of weakness. Seen from below a helping hand might be anything from a punch to flipping its finger to an attempt to squash you, especially if you’re not expecting it.
You can’t help those who don’t want to be helped. You can’t take other people’s problems on your own shoulders or force yourself into their lives to fix them.
Offer your help freely and repeatedly if you need, but if they say no just accept it and move on.
Misogyny and ageism aside, the message that older women should leave fandom and stick to conservative activities like “knitting and taxes” reveals a major ignorance of the nature of knitters.
“But then Ocasio-Cortez spoke, followed by Bush, and I saw something
truly terrifying. I saw just how easy it would be, were I less involved
and less certain of our nation’s founding and its history, to fall for
the populist lines they were shouting from that stage.
I saw how easy it would be, as a parent, to accept the idea that my children deserve healthcare and education.
I
saw how easy it would be, as someone who has struggled to make ends
meet, to accept the idea that a “living wage” was a human right.
Above
all, I saw how easy it would be to accept the notion that it was the
government’s job to make sure that those things were provided.”
You guys, the Daily Caller just published the funniest thing I have ever read in my entire life. It is literally an article where a conservative is just terrified to death that they nearly felt empathy and love.
This article is like the biggest proof I have ever read that conservatives are just pathologically afraid of kindness.
There’s… not even a punchline. Like, the article concludes just a few lines after the quoted section, with no suggestion for why anyone SHOULDN’T support things like universal healthcare. Not even a token “but, you know, the money,” or “but you have to EARN it.” It just ends.
I guess the audience is expected to fill in the blanks? Like “gosh, I almost cared about an unrelated human being, but CLEARLY the very concept is absurd.” Which is… pretty sad, honestly.
I’m telling you, at least according to this article, it is literally just terrifying to think that your kids deserve healthcare and education.
That’s literally it. There isn’t anything else.
“I saw how easy it would be, as a parent, to accept the idea that my children deserve healthcare and education“ is one fucking hell of a sentence, really.
Like she got nasty ass little hellion brats who only deserve coal in their stockings
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